It’s a one size fits all

I read a couple of lines from Orrin Woodward this morning. These lines struck a chord within me. He said, “Common interest brings friends together, love and truth deepens the relationship and respect and encouragement for one another is what makes them best friends.” As I ponder over this statement, the first face and name that popped into my head was Kasang Bulus.

I still remember the first day we met, for some reason unknown to me; I felt she did not like me. Why? Because I guess sometimes I am too opinionated for my own good. I felt she kept ignoring my commentaries, but I decided to do my best to get past the unending conversation. After our first meeting, our paths never crossed again until about two years later.

We attend a Christian conference together and based on my past experience, I did all I could to give her some “space”. But being a determined young lady, she did all she could to get past the gate I had setup for her. She would constantly come to my room to chat me up and just be around me. I was really trying to be careful. I didn’t want to step on anybody’s toes. You might have guessed already. I am too judgmental. My story isn’t complete yet.

As the years progressed, I watched as this lovely young lady did all she could to be there for me, even when my attitude towards her was evasive and indifferent, she saw beyond me. She looked at my better qualities. I went through one of the hardest periods in my life and she was there. Even though she was going through herself. She gave up her time for me. I still remember endless hours on the phone with her, trying to talk me out of my despondent nature. She would spend so much money on phone bills just to make sure I was okay.

Outside of my sister, I cannot ever remember breaking down and crying. I have always had a strong front. On this particular day, I had no strength left in me to be strong. She was there, she was my strength. The day I told God He had forsaken me, this amazing smallish black beauty was there to look me in the eye and say “shut up Sally, don’t you ever say that about my God“.

What makes this lady so spectacular? I thought long and hard about it, yet I couldn’t place my finger on it until I read this “when issues are NOT discussed, envy and jealousy rears its ugly head. What makes the poison of unaddressed jealousy so damaging to friendships is that its acid is poured directly onto the roots of the relationship“. I realized that her radiant quality spans from the fact that she always wanted to discuss everything that concerns two of us. She never ever lets it pass a day before she brings it up. Even when I am unwillingly to say a word, Kasang will begin the conversation, covering up my faults.

I have often heard that any genuine business principle will apply in any area of your life whether it is your marriage, relationship etc. I like to think of it as “a one size fits all.

In response to my previous statement, I would like to outline some of the business principles my best friend and business partner applied in our friendship that went a long way to strength our bonds, as opposed to me, who practically drained her.

She is a giver (ever heard the phrase givers never lack?), I was the taker and it seemed she always had more to give. Ever heard of the Law of Influence? It states that your influence is determined by how abundantly you place other people’s interest first. She always placed my interest above hers, whether it was business or otherwise. I don’t think there are more than two people I can count on in this world. She is one of them. I have often thought giving her a bouquet. I guess I have found an avenue to do just that.

Kasang, I want to say thank you so much for everything. Happy Marriage Life to you and Yoha.

And the both of them, together at last.

I could say more, but for lack of better words, I chose to say thank you. Enjoy Zanzibar.