There are messages that are silently passed down from generation to generation. I must state that these messages are numerous, but for the sake of running out of the boundaries that I set for myself, I am just going to stick to one of such messages.
Who has ever had that sickening feeling of start something new? That feeling is particularly felt when starting a new school, or a new job. Hmmmn, let’s stay with the school analogy. So no one actually told me this and I bet no one told you too, but we all know that when you are in school, whether elementary or college, your best bet at standing out is to be extra ordinary, most kids interpret that as being preppy, classy or down outright obnoxious. Heaven help those who just want to remain in the middle or at the other extreme. There would be no space for you on the social chain.
My name is … well that is not important, and I was freaked about Ogi Baba. My mother told me that any time I was asked “What do you want to eat”, my reply would always be with a loud cheer “Ogi Baba” also known as pap. As I grew older, so did my appetite for this local dish. Then came the day I was to start school, my mother knew just how excited I was. To give me an extra special treat, she packed me my most favourite food in the whole world “Ogi Baba”. As I walked into class, I felt like a queen, everyone was going to ask me for my victuals, I was positive and since I wanted to make a very good impression on my first day, I was willing to share. All throughout the morning, I could not wait for break time to come. It finally did. I was ecstatic. As I moved to pull out my super large bowl of pap, I noticed every other person bringing out little boxes of Kellogg’s Cornflakes and Frosty Flakes. I thought, poor children, they don’t have a great mum like mine who would take her time to cook this type of delicacy. I pried open my bowl and the little urchin beside said with a whole lot of disgust on her face “What is that?“
My response “Ogi Baba”, I was repelled by her action and somewhat embarrassed. My initial high feeling was replaced with one of sadness and then disdain. I went further to say “I wonder who put this in my lunch bag“. The little girl knew I was just making it up and she made sure to tell everyone in the room. Throughout the entire day I was laughed at and ridiculed. I went home that day and pleaded with mummy never to make such a disgusting meal for me ever again. I saw that hurt look on my mother’s face, but I was too concerned with trying to play in the big leagues when it comes to social status.
As I progressed through life, I found myself always running from a repeat of the Ogi Baba incident. I would always settle for what I didn’t really want because I wanted to live up to the expectation of others. Now I am about to get married, I don’t really love the dude, like him…maybe, but everyone around me says he social status will be very beneficial, I would never lack and my children will come out looking like Angelina Jolie. He is my Kellogg’s Cornflakes but I have got one Ogi Baba, that I love so much, he is the direct opposite of all I just spelt out. If you were in my shoes, which will you pick?
cling 2 yo ogi baba, u just may v problems chewing kellogz, n den all u nid 2 do is swallow yo ogi easily.
Tope, nice one.
Proud of u:).
U werent around n so dere was no scopin, come baq fast joor, some1z missin scopin u joor
Hmmm… Well 90% of us all grew up taking ogi baba, but wif generation Y, reverse be the case. Plus all dem lil kids wif sweet tooth nowadays sef don make grown ass man choose Flakes over ogi baba……
Ama do ma flakes anytime anyday *coversface* don’t blame tho.
Praaah , am out !!!
Tope: Follow your heart. Do not settle for something or someone that does not make you feel good and that is not genuine. Be true to yourself and others will be true to you. Good luck!
Yes, i will be true to me, but it is not my story!
That is a difficult question. In my heart I would say go with Ogi Baba. There are noo guarantee’s in life and relationships. One thing is certain, life is short and spending it with someone you don’t love will not make it as happy as it could be… Just my thoughts
Thanks Susan. Great advice
For me its got to be Ogi~Baba all the way. Being happy is the key.I would rather be happy with my ogi~baba than live miserably eating kellogs cornflakes. I will not allow social status/acceptance dictate who i want to be or become. It all boils down to you as an individual(Be yourself & be original).Call me old fashioned but thats just my candid opinion.
Go with the Ogi Baba. Who cares what other people think?
Different strokes for different folks… Its always advisable to follow what makes U Happy…. I know some people wouldn’t mind trading dia Happiness for “Kellogs Cornflakes” as U put iT lol, but seriously I tell U if U don’t do it right noW U will face iT in D future! I’m sure U know what I mean except U no send YOUR HAPPINESS “OGI BANA”.
What a horrible experience and now this choice.
I would choose the love option all the way! I married the man I love and never looked back and my son is up there in the Brad Pitt stakes
As you know I do love luxury, but those memories and the anticipation would be nothing without the love we share.
I do hope you go for love, listen to yourself and not those around you.
Oh no, Tope! You have such a big decision. But I think you are writing this down because you know the truth. Don’t you? I love the allegory of Corn Flakes vs. Ogi Baba and love vs. like. Oh goodness, I feel for you.
It may also be that you don’t belong with either?
Also, how did you come to love someone when you are promised to be married to another? If you are already physically with the one you love, that might be a sign you aren’t ready for marriage at all. You decide–because only you know all the details. But I feel for you in this big decision.
By the way, I really like your picture!!
Tope, follow your heart. You deserve to be Happy, don’t settle for less.
thanks Tolu!
Lovely piece babe.. Trust me, its not an easy decision. Tell her to Just go with what her conviction says. Tough one though!!! Love issue sha..#:-s
Great story… Always be true to yourself. No one else is living your life, but you. People need to do what is truly going to make them happy.
*thumbs up* dear
ogi baba is seasoned and original it never changes its persona but kellogs comes in different forms.so will you choose something that changes its form from time to time giving you uncertainty to predict or the one that you have know will always be there and remain the same? choose wisely nice one tope.
I just have to say that I’m proud of you. Very good write-up.