Young Yetunde is in deep thought about her next move and Yomi, her supposed betroth occupied a large spot in her thought space.
“I cannot do this anymore oh, I have reached rock bottom with this God forsaken relationship. Which kind of rubbish is this one? I am so sick and tired of coming in between him and his mother. And I think it is insane that he keeps saying I am the one with the problem. Even a blind Elephant can tell that he is a confirmed mama’s boy. If this messed up relationship leads to marriage na me go dey cry every blessed day. Na wa oh, He cannot even stand up for me. See my life. I am ending this thing once and for all and no amount of begging will work on me, me I have said my own”
That’s a lot to take in right? Well let’s start from the very beginning.
Yomi and Yetunde met right before they got into the university and it was all puppy love. Life was good or so they thought. Being young dreamers, they both decided that they wanted to go to the same university, probably the one in Abuja. The reason was so they could be home but away from home. Wishes do come true. They both got admission, however this was short lived because Yomi came with a different gospel. He had to go to the UK to further his studies just like his dad did or so says his mum. Yetunde was unhappy, but she went along with it, after all, what choice did she have?
She was a bit sad, because she felt it was just Mrs Ademola’s way of pulling her son away from her. She still remembers when she first met Yomi’s mum. She wasn’t particularly excited to see her and she had often heard phone conversations between mother and son on how she was way below his league and not suitable to hang around their lot. Yomi at the time would always shrug his mother off, and even though she felt he ought to do more in terms of standing up for her, she kept quiet and decided to let it slide. After much persuasion Yomi as usual obeyed mum’s wishes and accepted to do his studies in the UK. He was away for 7 years. Yes he called and came home regularly but the relationship would have gone south, if not for Yetunde’s mum. She encourage her to hold onto her man, after all is it easy to find a ready-made husband in this day and age?
When he came back, his family had a job ready for him and although he wanted to stay close to the mainland, so he could be near Yetunde, his mother declined and went ahead to get a house for him at Ikoyi, according to her, “there are certain parts of town that a man of your status CANNOT live in“. By this time, the fights between the two love birds had greatly heightened. The killer was when Yomi hinted that she should do something about her financial status, so his mother would accept her, after which he stressed the fact that he was unwillingly to break the heart of the woman (his mum) who has over tried for him. She couldn’t hold it any longer. She gave it to him, stating it is absolutely foolish to apologize just because she wasn’t born with a silver spoon in her mouth and if he can’t handle her “lowly status” then they are better off apart. He demanded that she apologize for her outburst or else…
And once again we return to Yetunde’s thoughts.
“I’m always the one that is sorry. I am not apologizing anything. Me I have tried. Which dirty ready-made husband is this one? If my mother no gree, na her business, I cannot go where na so so cry cry I go dey do everyday oh. Why can’t this boy just tell his mother to stop butting into his life?”
There is a knock at the door, She opens it. Yomi is standing there, looking at her, waiting for a response….
Before you read Yomi’s side of the story, what do you think Yetunde should do? I want hear your comments!!
This relationships is fraught with future problems. The mother has made up her mind about Yetunde and seems unwilling to bend in a different direction. And why should she. Yomi has given her no reason to change her thoughts about her, him and his social status. He does what his mother asks and that seems more important to him. Just my thoughts.
I agree with you Susan. If his mum is more important, then Yetunde should walk!
She should not just bother apologising, i’m sure Yomi’s mother too wasnt born with a silver spoon but she ended up with Yomi’s father. if his mother cant accept her for who she is then she better break it off and start afresh, and as for Yomi he is just a mumu. We have alot of them out there these days. He beta stand up for her or forget her
Good point. I wont apologize if it were me. Yomi is a total whimp!
Yetunde should jut move on wit her life cos if she ends up with Yomi she can never be happy.Let Yomi go and find a ready made woman.
What if Yomi is willing to change now?
What is a ready made woman?
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Yetunde does not seem happy with the situation, and it’s hard to know if things will really improve for her. Maybe it’s time to cut her losses. Really enjoyed your prose style.
Once a mama’s boy, always a mama’s boy! There are some traits you cannot change. I would say … walk and move on!
These situations are hard and I have actually seen this problem arise in a couple of relationships of my friends. I can’t say who is wrong or right because I know if I ever have a son, I will be very protective of who he chooses to love, but if I was the girl, I would not stand for my boyfriend to choose his mother’s side over me every single time. This relationship seems doomed if she gives in and apologizes, the boyfriend should see her side of the situation!
It’s hard to say when the heart is involved, yet it seems he would be unlikely to become less of a mama’s boy, and that would be very hard to deal with. The situation reminds me a bit of the character of Howard and his mother from the TV show The Big Bang Theory
Yomi: Dear mum with all due respect; your own haf do, na me or you wan marry?
Yikes, that’s not a good start and probably isn’t a good sign of things to come
There is too much heart ache here. I find it interesting that there is a concept of a ready made husband. What about the saying there are plenty more fish in the sea?
It would seem that it is harder to stay than leave.
After 7 years of putting up with him doing everything his mom tells him to, and then him insulting her? She needs to cut herself loose now, things won’t get better as they get older and it’ll be harder to break up if they marry and have kids.
Mum shud respect the feeling of a man.Yomi should be able to giive her reasons
i think the lady should leave and that guy must be a top class weakling…..