My elder sister and I were pretty violent when we were younger. On this particular day, our Papa was out and I remember her viciously coiling a rope round my neck, and pulling hard on it because I threw all her books outside the house. After which I had a long scar on my neck, but I was pretty young at the time, so the scar eventually disappeared. We eventually resolved our difference before my Papa came back home, but till today, I cannot remember what the fuss was all about. Each time I think about it, I still have goose bumps, because I realize that I could have died that day. Though none should be preferred over the other, the silence relationship bomb is a match stick compared to violence relationship bomb. Violence is deadly.
However, physical violence is not my focus today. Gossip is. It is a cowardly version of the violence bomb. As the word ‘bomb’ implies, it definitely kills. It kills people’s reputation. Usually when there is conflict between people, once it is not resolved, it goes underground and starts breeding broken trust and character assassination. I am tempted to say that I’ll rather take a bullet in the chest than have someone assassinate my character, because there is no telling to what extent this will go.
When I began penning down my thoughts, I felt that this will be a sequel to my original post Poisoned Pineapples, but I am having a rethink. I think it should actually be renamed ‘The Assassin‘.
Yes, gossip is the assassin that is out to destroy our relationships. It is very common in our world today. When there is conflict between two parties, gossip arises when either party chooses to discuss the problems with parties outside themselves. It is so difficult to understand why the discussion cannot take place between the parties involved. When this happens, the next thing that follows is broken trust and there is nothing as painful as that. When you break trust, it is as good as murder. The phenomenal about gossip is its viral effect. Once the word is out, there is no amount of damage control that will be able to reduce the hurt and pain it can cause.
The only way to combat gossip is to confront your fear and face the person you think has done something wrong to you. I think that is a better option than being a back stabber. A pretty funny topic to bring into a serious minded blog (who am I fooling?), but not so fast my friend, gossip is prevalent in the work environment, because it is a dog eat dog world, so be a leader, refuse to gossip, rather be intent on addressing and resolving conflict that may directly or indirectly hurt you.
Thanks again for reading. This is all I have got. I hope it means something to you